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You can spin it any way you like Pepper, the bottom line is you said you would "conclude you lack manners", and from that make an assumption that because of that perceived lack of manners that he has other "issues". All because he did not take off a hat, an act that seems be pretty evenly split here as to whether it is a bad thing.
Of course we all judge, it's human nature. But it's what we choose to do with that judgement. Do we wait to see if there are other factors before we reach our decision, or do we immediatley make a snap decision about a person.
Pepper said,
"Also, before "judging" you overlooked asking "would that deter me from playing golf with someone", the answer is NO. But I wouldn't invite him to my club, office or home, as its my responsibility to carefully choose my friends"
No, I didn't make a judgement about you, I made an observation. You readily admitted how you felt (or would feel), so there is no judgement to be made. If I concluded that I don't think much of you based on that statement (and I am not saying that), then that would be making a judgement. Bottom line, if you think someone is not "friend worthy" because of something so trivial, then maybe they don't want you as friend either (there, now thats a judgement).
Of course we all judge, it's human nature. But it's what we choose to do with that judgement. Do we wait to see if there are other factors before we reach our decision, or do we immediatley make a snap decision about a person.
Pepper said,
"Also, before "judging" you overlooked asking "would that deter me from playing golf with someone", the answer is NO. But I wouldn't invite him to my club, office or home, as its my responsibility to carefully choose my friends"
No, I didn't make a judgement about you, I made an observation. You readily admitted how you felt (or would feel), so there is no judgement to be made. If I concluded that I don't think much of you based on that statement (and I am not saying that), then that would be making a judgement. Bottom line, if you think someone is not "friend worthy" because of something so trivial, then maybe they don't want you as friend either (there, now thats a judgement).
If you don't like what I said, fine, that doesn't discount it. Apparently you like to safely argue on the internet over what you think you know. Good luck with that.
