Divorced guys, when did you know?
Posted 24 October 2012 - 09:51 PM
Actually, when I realized I did not want to go home after work. And while I am making fun of an imaginary conversation, when it seemed like even the most innocent conversations always seemed to be biting, if that makes sense.
Posted 25 October 2012 - 06:39 AM
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Posted 05 November 2012 - 11:07 AM
Divorces are expensive, because they're worth it.
Why go thru life with the wrong woman?
Posted 05 November 2012 - 04:35 PM
ask yourself whether it's worth it. ask yourself what you're willing to do to make it work. try to convince her of the same....and talk about it. i'm not an expert on this by any means, but i'll tell you i'm glad we didn't give up on it...
Posted 05 November 2012 - 05:04 PM
They had no chance, I do not see how they even married when they were young..
But I'm glad they did because I'm alive and I like my life.
This post is painfully poignant. I'm glad that you have been able to develop a reasonably healthy perspective on your life in relation to your parents' divorce J_D. It sounds like your parents are imperfect people who could have learned and benefited from each other within the context of their marriage. It is a shame they couldn't grow and adapt - that they chose to remain children. I hope that you recognize that no matter what kind of predisposition we might have, each of us has the power to learn and change. That is one of the wonderful and painful things about marriage. It can literally make you into a better person - but only if you are willing to grow.
I find this conversation and the cavalier attitudes expressed about marriage and divorce rather depressing. While not every marriage should endure, I think that the vast majority of divorces these days are frivolous acts. If you can't hack the commitment, you shouldn't get involved in the first place.
Posted 05 November 2012 - 06:54 PM
Well , was married around 10-ish years when things went too far south. Usual stuff at first but the usual stuff became just too usual.
Ultimately we just married too young and hadn't become the people we were going to be yet. So.... we then seperated to see what a break would be like (about 2 years total) during which I realized I didn't miss what we had and was looking for something else.
Started the process and that was that. Think we nearly made the 13 year mark technically. Fortunately it all went pretty smooth , no real fighting or anything. She certainly wasn't happy about it all but she still cared enough about me to want me to be happy.
Tough thing and there are no easy answers......
Posted 06 November 2012 - 11:58 PM
Posted 08 November 2012 - 11:38 AM