Posted 06 July 2008 - 06:50 PM
Views on this probably vary a lot more widely these days. The old fashioned way is that if I'm the member, I pick up everything. The person I invite is my guest, and I'm inviting them either because I enjoy their company, or I intend to compete strongly with them (or ideally, both!).
If there are charges for food and drink, they go to my account. If there is a substantial tee gift, then that's what it is...a gift.
If the guest wants to purchase other items in the shop, they would pay, or if the club doesn't take payment (only account charges), then he can reimburse me for that type of purchase.
The caveat is that this type of arrangement almost always involves reciprocity, meaning that I pay those costs knowing that I'll probably play an event at his club where he'll pick up the same fees and what not.
I play one every year where the entry fee is pretty steep, and I'm not the member. The food for the event is spectacular, and the tee gift(s) are worth several hundred dollars. My buddy picks up the entry fee and the drinks/food and other misc expenses, but the travel expense for me is usually $400 to $500, and he knows I'm burning vacation days at work.
As was mentioned earlier, the member guest event is usually the biggest shindig for the club, with the member/member being more about the golf than the party. The member/guest is about showing off the club at bit, eating great food and enjoying other stuff, and trying to play well. As the member, you want your guest to feel at home and have a great time. They won't if they're worried about what to do or how to handle the cost, so it's up to you to put them at ease.
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