I agree with TigerMom above. Every kid is different, both in natural ability and personality.
Let Earl Woods raise a million other kids the same way he did Tiger I'd bet heavily he would not produce another major champion.
Some kids are pleasers. They'll do whatever it takes to fulfill their parent's wishes.
Others are the opposite and will rebel, often choosing the opposite of what their parents would prefer.
It's tough to find a balance between encouragement and pushing too hard. It helps to know what makes your kid tick and acknowledging that they're all different.
Some parents are indeed way over the top. I find it just as annoying and often condascending however, when folks on these message boards start with the holier than thou preaching of "just let them be kids and have fun, they'll figure it out on their own," when parents come on here looking for advice on how to deal with their juniors. That might work for some, but not the majority in my experience.
My daughter plays D1 golf on a full scholarship. I can guarantee you that had I just left it up to her there'd be no chance of this. Most successful junior players have at least one parent who is heavily involved and pushing to some extent.
Most kids are impulsive and short sighted. It's natural, and part of being a kid. They need a parent to guide them and keep them on track, whether its homework, sports, or simply cleaning up after themselves. Discipline, commitment, and perseverance don't always come naturally.
When my daughter was young we would sit down together to map out her tournaments for the season. Many times that meant traveling and all of the associated expenses. I'd make it very clear that I was happy to pay for it all as long as she'd agree to prepare appropriately. Many times she'd need to be reminded of this, and on occasion we'd have some battles.
I'll also share that I tried to get my first daughter into golf, great kid (adult now) and great student, but from a very young age she had what I called "Iknowitis." I know dad, I know how to do it. This is the way I do it...lol as she'd hit grounders! She became a decent rower, so she found her sport, but she never took to golf.
My younger one was the opposite and way more coachable. To this day she asks me to critique her swing. It also helped that she is naturally athletic. Again, they're all different, and the more promise your junior athlete shows, and the more advanced they get into their sport, the tougher it is to find the right balance
Edited by dpb5031, 16 September 2018 - 07:04 AM.