TigerMom, on 06 July 2018 - 07:12 AM, said:
mgrowc1, on 05 July 2018 - 08:07 PM, said:
tatertot, on 16 June 2018 - 08:34 PM, said:
And this is what's wrong with America today.
Haha that gif made me laugh. So I will offer some advice. I know you are not looking for parenting advice but I am going to tell you my personal experience based on my own background.
Different sport (tennis) but I was many years ago very good if I dont say so myself :-) Parents really pushed me too much and I got very burned out and hated the sport by the time I was 13/14. Looking back it was clear they were trying to live their own dreams through me. However, I was still very good and one of the best in the nation by the time I was 15. I was traveling the world and when you are elite then schooling becomes very much an afterthought. I dont agree with this but it was how it was in my experience anyway. I know a lot of people who didn’t do schooling to try and make it and had nothing to fall back on. Very few make it...
I kept playing and me “quitting” was coming to play college (I am European).. I didn’t have the grades Ivy leagues look for since school was not a big deal and just seen as something that took me away from my “job”. Anyway, I was still approached by Ivy leagues because of my athletics. This is not a brag here even though it will probably sound like it but I did end up being ranked as high as no1 in the NCAAs, albeit not with an Ivy League but a very big school you will all know. In hind sight I should have gone the Ivy League route or a tier 1 academic but again, the mentality at the time was who cares about education... I really just came to college to get away from my parents and get something to fall back on as I hated tennis by this point.
Now, I am telling you this to say that being elite at a sport can definitely get you preferential treatment, even for admissions for Ivy League. I am not sure how good you have to be but I know I was given that chance. However, my experience was that they also somewhat dictate your degrees and classes. Meaning if you are not a walk on then they very much discourage you from doing classes that require a ton of work.
Happy to answer anything else but I will leave you with this. I was very much forced to do things I didn’t want to do and in some ways I am glad my parents did that as I have no clue where I would be without my degrees and moving to the US where I love have a great career, and have a family that I wouldn’t change for anything. However, on the other hand I have a lot of resentment and it completely ruined any relationship I could have had with my parents. Looking back I cannot remember many fun times with them at all. Now I have a daughter and do not talk to my parents at all. They have never met my daughter, didn’t come to my wedding etc.
This is just my experience and my 2 cents. I want my daughter to play golf and other sports and she will do something as I know commitment and discipline has helped me no end in the professional world. But I almost hope she doesn’t get elite at something and I sure as hell won’t push her too hard as my biggest fear in life is for my daughter to look back and look at me the same way I do with my own parents.