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#61 dedicated2journey

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Posted 21 May 2018 - 08:16 AM

I totally get that. Golf is a solitary game...even when I'm playing with people I tend to keep to myself.

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Posted 27 May 2018 - 10:06 AM

If my "buddies" keep insisting on myself playing the white tees, this will be my game of choice.I like the senior tees and can go solo easily.
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Posted 27 May 2018 - 10:46 AM

 platgof, on 27 May 2018 - 10:06 AM, said:

If my "buddies" keep insisting on myself playing the white tees, this will be my game of choice.I like the senior tees and can go solo easily.

Another reason I prefer playing by myself is because at my local CC I hardly see anyone playing from the back tees during the week. Sure, I can play from the whites or closer and hit driver/three wood and a wedge (on the longer holes), but that gets boring real quick.

But then again I probably shouldn't complain as we don't have a bunch of short-knockers playing from the tips. We do get some of those on the weekends though.

Edited by wrmiller, 27 May 2018 - 10:46 AM.

I'm not suggesting we kill all the stupid people, I'm just suggesting we remove all the warning labels and let the situation resolve itself.

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Posted 27 May 2018 - 10:53 AM

There is nothing better (to me) than playing first thing in the morning by myself and headphones. This is the only way I play now because 1:45 hour rounds becomes addicting.
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Posted 27 May 2018 - 06:54 PM

I love playing alone; it’s my first choice for sure.  I was actually a little disappointed that I got paired with a twosome tomorrow (but not surprised; it is the holiday after all).  It’s my first round, though, so I’m ultimately just happy to be out there.


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Posted 27 May 2018 - 10:47 PM

I play by myself after work or during the summer if I can pick up a weekday twilight round. Every once in a while, someone tries to join up and that's fine, but in the interest of full transparency towards people who I likely won't encounter on courses, I prefer solitude. Just give me earbuds, an iPod, my own thoughts, and a course that forces me to think.
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Posted 28 May 2018 - 11:35 AM

 ldchristopher, on 27 May 2018 - 10:47 PM, said:

I play by myself after work or during the summer if I can pick up a weekday twilight round. Every once in a while, someone tries to join up and that's fine, but in the interest of full transparency towards people who I likely won't encounter on courses, I prefer solitude. Just give me earbuds, an iPod, my own thoughts, and a course that forces me to think.
Same, but now have a golf buddy @ the course and okay with our 3-4some and being the first one's off on the Weekend.  Now he wants to join me (or I invite him if doing a 5:30 or later evening tee off).  Have fallen way behind on my "solo" rounds and my podcasts.

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Posted 28 May 2018 - 11:48 AM

I dont know anyone around me that plays so the majority of my rounds will be solo. After work are always solo. On the weekends its usually 50/50, mainly depends on how early a time I can get and if its Saturday or Sunday. I always enjoy myself whether Im with buddies, strangers or alone.

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Posted 28 May 2018 - 08:31 PM

Finding dudes who walk, play reasonably fast and really early has proven a challenge my entire golfing life. I will compromise this criteria for my old man but that is about it. To me golf is where the physical, intellectual and spiritual worlds  collide and it's easier to appreciate when not having to follow social conventions.
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Posted 28 May 2018 - 10:19 PM

I suggest playing this song next time...

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Posted 29 May 2018 - 09:32 AM

Solo twilight golf is one of the great joys in my life.

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Posted 01 June 2018 - 12:25 PM

I understand the solo round. Use to have a solid core of about 8-10 buddies in college and could always find 2-3 to play a round at almost any time. But with age, career, wife, and kids it gets ridiculously hard to line up a round. Plus I like to play 9 rather than 18 after work. And easier to do that solo.

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Posted 01 June 2018 - 08:22 PM

 vaca22, on 29 May 2018 - 09:32 AM, said:

Solo twilight golf is one of the great joys in my life.
You got that right. After a day of work going out to play a bunch of holes solo is perfect! Come home, have a glass of bourbon and then pass out.

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Posted 03 June 2018 - 10:26 PM

That fellow sounds pretty normal to me.  If he didnt talk to you or anyone else it would be a little odd in my book.

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Posted 04 June 2018 - 02:58 AM

I enjoy playing alone, great escapism. I also enjoy playing with a small number of old friends. Nothing makes me cringe more than the thought of turning up on a first tee and having to play golf with complete strangers.

Im bound to play badly and be one of those who has to say "I'm normally quite good with mid irons....etc"

I guess that despite being out there for career purposes for 40 years, at heart I'm an introvert. Each to their own.

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Posted 04 June 2018 - 03:19 AM

I have no issues with playing by myself.  Tonight after seeing both the Golden State Warriors and my Oregon State Beavers would have easy games (GS was up big at halftime and my Beavers were up 5-0 after 3), I headed out to the course and arrived around 7:15.  I hopped into my cart and found that not a soul was on the course.  I got in 9 holes in roughly 50 minutes and got home in time to watch the final two innings of the OSU game.  Win-win.

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Posted 04 June 2018 - 09:57 PM

Playing golf alone is like playing the piano for no audience.  It's not "real" golf or piano....you need some amount of pressure because it's part of either activity to advance....unless it's a hobby then I totally get it.

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Posted 04 June 2018 - 10:39 PM

I sometimes have difficulty focusing when playing solo and can turn it into a practice, dropping shots everywhere. Both are productive, but when I do focus, I know my mental game is at it's best. Either way, a solo nine holes before work is a beautiful thing. Some people have church or drugs or whatever. Golf is my escape/salvation.
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Posted 04 June 2018 - 10:53 PM

Best option would be to play with friends/family who also golf regularly. Given the choice between playing alone and joining up with strangers, both are equally enjoyable. In any case, I always score better when playing alone.
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Posted 04 June 2018 - 10:59 PM

I dropped 5 stroked on my handicap when I used to play by myself all the time, now I realize that I used too many gimmies. Sometimes your social group is a drool and have to get away, nothing wrong with loving the game and using the opportunity to get some me time.

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Posted 05 June 2018 - 05:33 AM

If I had a caddie I could play by myself all the time. I then would have someone to validate my play and help me look for the occasional miss hit ball.

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Posted 10 June 2018 - 10:22 PM

View Postscooterboy59, on 03 May 2018 - 09:01 AM, said:

Had a fellow that played at a course I was at that played exclusively by himself. He told me he enjoyed the challenge of the game and the time alone away from everyone. I practice by myself on the course, but rarely play a round.

Nothing wrong with it.  Like some people said, it might be the chance they have to be alone with their thoughts.

I enjoy playing the odd round alone.  I've only every turned down offers to join or be joined twice.

Once on a slow day by the group ahead.  I wasn't holding people up but would have to wait.  I declined because I tend to not play well when I'm not constantly moving.  So I took it as a opportunity to have to wait around and be patient and took things as they came.

The other time I turned down others was because i was in a rush and had a very very limited window to squeeze in 9 holes and I was power walking between shots.

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Posted 14 June 2018 - 02:38 PM

Life is busy and you never know when you can squeeze in 9 holes.  Playing by yourself is just fine.

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Posted 15 June 2018 - 06:19 AM

For my normal playing partners golf is their life and only hobby.   If I am playing after work I like to tee off around 230 and be done by 530 or so.    I recently joined the country club they belong to and have started opting out of playing with them after work.  We agree on 230 and by the time they show up... bs with the  pro... figure out what we are playing for,  tell a few stories and tee off, it is now like 315-330.   The last bunch of rounds ended  near 730-745. I was growing frustrated and my game was struggling ( still is)  I started going out myself immediately after work and cannot describe how peaceful the feeling is. I am also actually making progress and improving by being able to work on shots on the course.   I prefer playing alone and competing against myself.

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Posted 15 June 2018 - 08:04 AM

View PostMountainGoat, on 03 May 2018 - 08:05 PM, said:

I prefer to play alone because doing so allows me to swear freely and completely without having to worry if anyone can hear me.

I am also a reprehensible jerk who gets morose and sullen when I'm playing poorly.  I hate that the game does this to me, and I don't want other people to witness it.  Seriously.


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Posted 16 June 2018 - 10:17 AM

If my friends aren't available I prefer to play alone  2 hrs for 18 in a cart.

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Posted 16 June 2018 - 11:16 AM

View PostFourTops, on 04 June 2018 - 09:57 PM, said:

Playing golf alone is like playing the piano for no audience.  It's not "real" golf or piano....you need some amount of pressure because it's part of either activity to advance....unless it's a hobby then I totally get it.

This may matter to some, but not me. I'm not a person that needs my game 'validated' by anyone. Nor does playing with others put any 'pressure' on me or my game, because I simply don't care what others think, say, or do on a golf course. Unless they are doing something that is annoying or aggravating, in which case I'll drop out and continue solo. Or if the course is busy, I'll simply quit and head for the car.

Now if I can find some players at my new course that are decent enough people, don't carry boom boxes, nor drink too much, and know golf etiquette, I may occasionally play with them. We'll see. Playing with others to me is not a requirement for a good round of golf. :)
I'm not suggesting we kill all the stupid people, I'm just suggesting we remove all the warning labels and let the situation resolve itself.

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Posted 16 June 2018 - 12:32 PM

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View PostFourTops, on 04 June 2018 - 09:57 PM, said:

Playing golf alone is like playing the piano for no audience.  It's not "real" golf or piano....you need some amount of pressure because it's part of either activity to advance....unless it's a hobby then I totally get it.

This may matter to some, but not me. I'm not a person that needs my game 'validated' by anyone. Nor does playing with others put any 'pressure' on me or my game, because I simply don't care what others think, say, or do on a golf course. Unless they are doing something that is annoying or aggravating, in which case I'll drop out and continue solo. Or if the course is busy, I'll simply quit and head for the car.

Now if I can find some players at my new course that are decent enough people, don't carry boom boxes, nor drink too much, and know golf etiquette, I may occasionally play with them. We'll see. Playing with others to me is not a requirement for a good round of golf. :)

My point is not about seeking "validation" from others, but decent performance in front of others.  You don't care which is actually a huge benefit...but many folks do care...a LOT....too much in fact.  Listeners don't care if I miss notes while playing the piano...but it bothers  the crap out of me because I want to perform well.  To become better players, whether in golf or piano, one must learn how to perform in front of others...and accept negative outcomes,  I think most golfers desire to perform at least decently well...and not be "that guy" topping drives, almost killing someone with a shanked iron, or constantly looking for lost balls.  

I have yet to play with guys who topped their first three drives and laughed all the way to their next shots....it's the opposite...they feel stupid, embarrassed, especially because they just hit decent drives on the range in front of their buddies.  Lack of an audience is partly why folks can make 8 of 10 five-footers on the putting green and make 0 for 8 on the course, or they make a smooth, relaxed practice swing...then some crazy....abrupt...off balance swing occurs.  People are watching...and it 'counts'...no way around that.  

Speaking of topping drives...I know a guy who fixed that by saying out loud before each tee shot, that he's going to put on a "clinic" on how how to top a drive.  Somehow that took the pressure off him and I don't think he's topped a drive since...but he still says the same thing when he gets anxious.

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Posted 16 June 2018 - 01:05 PM

Being a member of a club allows you to play as you want, when you want and no need to get "your monies worth" each an every time.

Today it was a shotgun (as club event @ 1:00).  Did not like the 8:30 tee off (vs. our usual 6:30) so played two before our tee off, then 12 holes and cut over played 3 more back to the clubhouse alone.  Incredibly 17 holes in total in 2:40ish......  Monday the forecast is 36 celsius and will head out for a 6:30 tee off......  Will be only second or third solo this year.

I don't need validation, though if I play well alone will let my partners & friends certainly know!!!!!

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Posted 16 June 2018 - 01:06 PM

I don't get that mental. Again, I could care less what people think. When I do hit a bad shot I do indeed laugh about it.

I am the only judge of my game that matters.

I'm not suggesting we kill all the stupid people, I'm just suggesting we remove all the warning labels and let the situation resolve itself.

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