Andrew Bond of Glencoe, on 26 September 2017 - 10:11 PM, said:
Curious if there is anybody out there like me. I am currently a 2 handicap and when I think about it, the better I have become at the game the less I tend to enjoy it. That statement shocks my buddies who are bogey golfers, but for me it can be true. It's not always true but it can be true.
I am extremely streaky as a golfer- perhaps because I started playing at the age of 28 (now 43). I can shoot really low (lowest round this year was (-8) 63 but I can also shoot in the mid-80s in any given round.
I remember relishing every round when I was a 9-12 handicap, but as a 2 I am quick to get upset with poor shots and have a certain expectation of playing well. It was so bad last month that I had to reset my behavior- I found myself swearing over bad shots and in terrible mood swings on the golf course. Fortunately I realized that I didn't like who I was becoming and changed my behavior and with it my scores dropped again.
Am I alone or is this common? Even though I changed my behavior I still am a hawk over my handicap. I don't like seeing it tick up.
Some people may find this insane but it is what works for me.
I am a 0.5 handicap and I have invented all sorts of bizarre games and tricks to play on myself. I've found that it is easy to let life beat you up and grind you down (I'm 32). So I've effectively created all these make-believe things that make things fun.. For example, I know this sounds crazy, but I, in my mind act like I'm a professional golfer. What does this mean? I work out, I eat well..I love beer/wine, relaxing with my wife/family, etc. but always make sure I'm taking care of myself for my golf game.
When I play, I always dress the part...doesn't need to be crazy over the top but always look sharp. Lastly and mostly importantly, I always act like I have a gallery. I don't know if anyone has even played in front of 30 people (I have) and it is exhilarating. The weird thing about golf is that almost nobody has ever seen you play it, except your best golf buddies. Maybe your wife and perhaps your buddies wife if you're at a club. But generally, people I've spent most of my life around have never seen me swing a club or make a putt. So for me, I just make believe that people are watching me play golf.
I always, always play best when I have a smile on my face. I make it a point to walk down fairways and smile. So few people get to enjoy the game, let alone make their life's biggest worry their golf game. Even when playing poorly, I always look up, look around and say, who would want to be in your shoes right now? Uh, 99.99% of humans!
People screw this game up by taking it too seriously. Trick your brain man! Have some fun with yourself and laugh. Heck, the ride on this place ain't very long...enjoy it.
Again, I recognize this advice sounds insane...give it a shot...it's kinda fun!