QUOTE (shift @ Apr 14 2009, 10:42 AM)

it sounds like some people are too timid to say "no" then complain that con artists are taking advantage of them. if the guy starts cleaning your clubs and you don't need them cleaned just say, "appreciate it, but I don't need my club cleaned." end of story. he stops, you don't tip. if you're too afraid to say "no" then tip out of guilt, well that's really your problem. when a stock broker calls you to buy stocks do you just rollover and say yes, then complain about how they hustled you into buying stocks you didn't want/need?
the bag boy is just like you and me, out to make a living. he's making an honest living, not stealing, not begging. he's trying to provide you some service in return for a gratuity. what's the big deal?
you guys do sound really grumpy and/or cheap. saying these bag boys try to hustle people is a bit too much. are you guys the same people who don't say "thank you" for services rendered because, well, it's part of the job? is this anger at tipping just toward bag boys or everybody (bell hops, waiters, hairdressers, etc.)?
Are you seriously trying to draw an analogy between saying "thank you" and foregoing the club cleaning / tip? "Thank you" is a common courtesy and just plain good manners. It's not optional IMO. Tipping, however, is optional.
I tip very well where the service is rendered and necessary (waiters, hair stylist, valet). I can't serve myself in a restaurant unless it's a buffet; I can't cut my own hair, or at least I choose not to; and often times, I don't park my own car because the lot is too full, it's raining, or I'm just in a hurry or too lazy. In all of those cases, it's a choice I make and not one that is pushed on me.
But in the case of the club washers, as I posted earlier, I don't need this service, yet it is often pushed on me and others. I've seen cases where there are guys hanging out by the 18th hole. When you leave your cart to go to the green, they swarm the cart and start "cleaning" your clubs. Do I have the option of passing on that service? If I yell from the green, "hey, my clubs are fine. Thanks." then guys like you will say I'm cheap because I choose to pass on the "service" I don't need because my clubs are already clean.
It's really a no-win situation for the golfer. You really have 3 choices:
1. Let the guy "clean" your clubs and tip him.
2. Let the guy "clean" your clubs and don't tip him. Guys like you will say that person is grumpy or cheap.
3. Pass on the "service". Again, guys like you will say that person is grumpy or cheap.
The bottom line is that there are people who see value in this service and tip for it. And there are people who see no value in it and choose to pass on it. I don't think either is wrong.
Kevin